The Rabbi and The Shrink

#17: Mark Brown - Everyone Deserves a Second Chance

June 24, 2021 Rabbi Yonason Goldson and Dr. Margarita Gurri, CSP Episode 17
The Rabbi and The Shrink
#17: Mark Brown - Everyone Deserves a Second Chance
Show Notes

Episode #17:  Mark Brown -- everyone deserves a second chance

Why do we fear what we don’t understand?

Is freedom a goal or an obligation?

What practical steps can we take to create a culture of civility and mutual respect?

These and other substantive questions are answered when World Champion of Speaking Mark Brown, CSP, joins the Rabbi and the Shrink.

1:00  How Mark became a World Champion of Speaking

Disney and “a second chance”

Intolerance, indifference, and ignorance -- how we treat each other

Don’t be tied to what others think of you

Why do we fear what we don’t understand?

8:00 The unknown makes us feel vulnerable so we try to assert control

The responsibility of creators to project values and messages

Our responsibility as consumers of media to seek out positive messages

Why don’t we get it?

How do we get to a place where we want to understand?

Have the courage to be yourself

Be fast, funny, and curious

15:00  Who takes the first step to find common ground?

The first step is often unseen

Asking questions is more important than coming up with answers

17:00 Why the most joyous season in the Jewish calendar became a time of morning

The destructive consequences of disrespect

Culture goes from the top down and is magnified

Freedom is not the goal but an opportunity, a privilege, and an obligation

21:00 We are responsible for preserving the standards of our culture

Tolerance means we can get along

Our differences don’t define us

Take responsibility for what you do and don’t do, what you say and don’t say

The home and society are intertwined

The lessons of Rehoboam son of Solomon 

Surround yourself with wise counsel

30:00 “The building of youth is destruction; the destruction of old age is building.”

Why we stand up for a parent, a scholar, and the elderly

We have to reinforce in ourselves fundamental values

Don’t devalue the old because we are enamored with the new

34:00 How can we do better as individuals and a society?

Focus on and magnify the positive and you will automatically diminish the negative

Seek advocates in positions of authority

Create an environment in school that replicates our vision of a better society

We are all teachers of those who observe us

48:00 Use your voice to speak boldly and respectfully

You can say the same thing encouragingly or dismissively

How will our words be received?

Timing can be everything

Try to see the world through the eyes of others

Don’t be a bully or a victim

54:00 What is our action plan?
1) Work on ourselves

2) Learn through observation

3) Develop our voice

The words you choose can ignite or defuse violence

Exercise restraint for yourself; come to the defense of others

61:00  The word of the day:  phenomenology

Martin Heidigger -- Reality and consciousness are co-creators

Understanding depends on the relationship between them

My responses to what happens to me determine who I become